Stay at Home Wife in 2014

I believe that I am worth the same as a man.  I believe that I can do most things that men can do, sometimes better, sometimes worse.  I believe that I should be able to live by the same rules according to government standards that men live by.  I should be able to work if I want and make the same amount of money for the same amount of effort and skill.  I deserve to be heard in the political realm and be able to vote on what is happening in our country if I so choose to do so.

I, however, do not believe that I need to assert myself over men.  I am dismayed by what has happened to the “men” of our society.  Man-babies that refuse to get married, while looking for the next conquest in the bed, all the while watching sophomoric, bathroom humor movies.  Am I talking about collage age men?  Nope.  Those 30-somethings out there.

I am also dismayed by those women that work to put men “in their place,” by degrading the men into metro-sexual androgynous shells of what God has created.  The ones who want sexual “freedom.”  Everyone is unhappy in our society.  Psychologists are cranking in the money while spewing their misconceptions of what God created.

Not that much has changed throughout history other than the fact that women are now trying to be dominant and make men into househusbands to take care of the children while they find fulfillment outside of the home.  The men are now moving to being dominated over by being told what they can and can’t do by women.  Not a society of equals, but just a different group in charge.

God created something better than this!

That’s why I am a stay at home wife.  I understand the value that God has created in the Bible of male and female roles.  The wonderful interplay and usefulness of both male and female.  And the true joy of embracing both of those as God created them.  Yes, I could try to follow society.  I could try to be dominate over my husband.  I could try the 50/50 rule of society.  But none of them has brought the amount of joy, stress-free, and ultimate blessings that has been that of what God created.

And I, along with my husband, have come up against a decent amount of hate and judgment for our decision.  If there is something negative to be said or thought about us, even if in direct conflict with something else someone else said or thought, it has been directed at us.  And the amount of assumptions about our life that are incorrect has truly amazed and many times baffled me.

If some of this blog post sounds familiar to some of my readers, that’s because it should!  When I started my first blog several years ago, this was one of my most important series from it.  That’s why I wanted to post it on A Wife of Grace.  I have updated it to reflect the years of knowledge and growth that I have made in this area, but much of what I said back then is still important.

I still live in this world, this society.  We have to understand some of the preconceived notions that have come through the feminist vine that have colored what womanhood means now.  Over the next several weeks, I want to look at several beliefs of our society that lead to a negative look at the SAHW and what also can lead to struggles on the road to becoming a SAHW.

“The wisest of women build their houses, but folly with her own hands tears it down.” (Proverbs 14:1)

through His grace alone!

Sarah